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The ups and down of life (48 posts / 9,817 views)
Canalcarper71 Canalcarper71
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Post #31 8 May 2026 06:52
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I lost my mom in December 2024 And I was in a really bad way my brother literally had to drag me out the house to get out for a night on 19th December,2 weeks after she'd gone and I was standing in water at 1am just taking it all in,my mom was so happy whenever we all caught(I'm the only carper my brothers match fish)she knew how much we loved our fishing since we were very young,I've struggled for over a year coming to terms with her passing and if I catch I dedicate it to my mom,my fishing winds me down from stress at work and it’s time for me to think of all the good times we had with her as we were her carers,as she was blind and deaf.
I'm out now and lost 2 on Wednesday and an hour ago I had a 15.12 not big but she'd be happy I caught and it was always a big fish to her,I sat down had a smoke and a hot drink and I've had a little robin come to visit me,they do say it's a sign from a passed parent if one pops up.
But yeah we all need a reset every so often it's great to be out even if the fish aren't playing ball
DarthMullet
Posts: 321
Post #32 9 May 2026 09:08
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It's mental health awareness week next week and Absolute Radio are doing a feature about the benefits of fishing... It's been on each day around 4.30-5pm for the back end of last week and will be on again this coming week... Nice to see some positive mainstream coverage of our passtime...
CarpCodger71 CarpCodger71
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Post #33 9 May 2026 12:02
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https://www.eput.nhs.uk/news/icarps-fishing-therapy-for-ptsd-and-depression-nominated-for-national-mental-health-award/

Could someone kindly link the above for me please .
I work for the mental. Health trust above and please look at the wonderful work Mark and his team are doing .
Working with veterans with PTSD and other mental health patients .

By the way had my first fish from my new syndicate . 32lb cracking mirror .
No signs of anxiety Ÿ˜Ÿ
vossy1 vossy1
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Post #34 9 May 2026 12:28
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LINKY POO™ https://www.eput.nhs.uk/news/icarps-fishing-therapy-for-ptsd-and-depression-nominated-for-national-mental-health-award/




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cinisimon cinisimon
Posts: 322
Post #35 9 May 2026 12:36
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When my mom passed away the first sessions I got fishing I felt uneasy and asked to myself what the hell I was doing there, but I continued to go and after a couple of months I felt glad to be on the bank chasing carp. In my opinion it helped me to overcome the grief.
In the same way fishing helps me to be more relaxed and take the everyday stress off.
Canalcarper71 Canalcarper71
Posts: 1,389
Post #36 9 May 2026 14:43
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That's very true mate my mom would be happy knowing we are still doing what we love,like I said the last year or so has been so difficult I was told I had depression as I hadn't grieved properly I had a few meltdowns including at work I do think I went back to work too soon but it would have been worse at home as I still live in the home we shared with her.
No one knows how much we miss her but life does go on
Barbel-Arch Barbel-Arch
Posts: 157
Post #37 10 May 2026 10:29
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I lost my wife two weeks ago after a very short fight with cancer. I only fish rivers, and the season can't come quick enough for me. Although coming home in the early hours to an empty house is going to take some getting used to.
scaley&dark
Posts: 5,563
Post #38 10 May 2026 11:49
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Sorry for your very recent loss of your wife..
At least here on CF you have fellow minded anglers that are/have experienced your pain to help navigate your grief and personal recovery over time.


vossy1 vossy1
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Post #39 10 May 2026 11:53
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So sorry to read about your wife, my condolences,, stay strong
CarpCodger71 CarpCodger71
Posts: 2,762
Post #40 10 May 2026 12:21
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In reply to Post #37
Such sad news buddy take care of yourself , sending my best wishes .
Canalcarper71 Canalcarper71
Posts: 1,389
Post #41 10 May 2026 13:07
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Really sorry about your loss stay strong thoughts are with you
TCarper TCarper
Posts: 4,650
Post #42 10 May 2026 18:18
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So sorry to hear this Simon. Words are pointless. I pray there is some relief for you soon. Your wife would want you to be out there fishing, doing what you love.

To the rest of you. Some very honest words written in this thread. I salute you all.

Stay strong, all of you xx
essesxandy essesxandy
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Post #43 11 May 2026 06:13
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Really sorry to hear that mate, please accept my condolences.
kells kells
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Post #44 11 May 2026 07:41
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Sorry to hear about your loss Simon. Stay strong Fella.
Barbel-Arch Barbel-Arch
Posts: 157
Post #45 11 May 2026 09:38
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I've just been to see her off. She didn't want the fuss of a funeral, so she's had a direct cremation instead. I stood outside the crematorium and watched her final journey from there.
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