In reply to Post #15
Haha I know what you mean mate. What I kind of meant is that it feels like a full session.
In effect you are fishing during pretty much the entire feeding spell on most of my waters, an overnighter means a load of faffing about and most of the time is wasted.
Early starts and tactical baiting in between. It keeps the fire burning for me.
Haha I know what you mean mate. What I kind of meant is that it feels like a full session.
In effect you are fishing during pretty much the entire feeding spell on most of my waters, an overnighter means a load of faffing about and most of the time is wasted.
Early starts and tactical baiting in between. It keeps the fire burning for me.
In reply to Post #15
I also done a few of those last summer. It just felt like my chance was gone by 9 if i'm honest. So not only had I already lost 2 hours mentally I was knackered for the rest of the day lol.
I also done a few of those last summer. It just felt like my chance was gone by 9 if i'm honest. So not only had I already lost 2 hours mentally I was knackered for the rest of the day lol.
In reply to Post #15
I also done a few of those last summer. It just felt like my chance was gone by 9 if i'm honest. So not only had I already lost 2 hours mentally I was knackered for the rest of the day lol.
I also done a few of those last summer. It just felt like my chance was gone by 9 if i'm honest. So not only had I already lost 2 hours mentally I was knackered for the rest of the day lol.
In reply to Post #15
I also done a few of those last summer. It just felt like my chance was gone by 9 if i'm honest. So not only had I already lost 2 hours mentally I was knackered for the rest of the day lol.
I also done a few of those last summer. It just felt like my chance was gone by 9 if i'm honest. So not only had I already lost 2 hours mentally I was knackered for the rest of the day lol.
In reply to Post #16
When she was 16 and I was 17 a lovely girl fluttered her eye lashes at me and said "But you'd give up fishing if I asked you - wouldn't you?"
I said "Sure, just never ask me"
We are still together 45 years later. But I've always been reasonable and she has always been encouraging so it's been relatively easy. I can see how fishing can make the misses feel like she's somewhere behind it in the energy and affection a man can give. We should all surprise them occasionally like coming home early with a bunch of daffs and a bottle of plonk.
I said "Sure, just never ask me"
We are still together 45 years later. But I've always been reasonable and she has always been encouraging so it's been relatively easy. I can see how fishing can make the misses feel like she's somewhere behind it in the energy and affection a man can give. We should all surprise them occasionally like coming home early with a bunch of daffs and a bottle of plonk.
In reply to Post #21
If I do two or more nights on the trot it costs me a takeaway and a bottle of fizzy wine (she calls it 'fishing tax'). She has no problem with me going because she wants me to be happy, she has days out and it's well balanced. We have 4 kids so I really do appreciate her understanding my passion.
If I do two or more nights on the trot it costs me a takeaway and a bottle of fizzy wine (she calls it 'fishing tax'). She has no problem with me going because she wants me to be happy, she has days out and it's well balanced. We have 4 kids so I really do appreciate her understanding my passion.
I think I must be a really lucky chap,my wife really supports my Angling,honestly I could go for as long as I want when I want,i`m now semi retired at 54....but do you know what I don't want to anymore,one short overnighter a week is all I need or a long day session,maybe a bit of a coastal wild camp ,who knows...
There are lots of things outside of angling that we have planned together....However I wasn`t always like this,i`m embarrassed to show how many lakes ive fished and caught from,all time I could have spent with my lovely lady,i WAS selfish....and she never ever complained,not once..!!!
Lasy year I lost a good friend,my prot aged 43,last week his step father passed ,both good angling friends of mine ,same village ,dog walking route etc ,ie,close....it makes you think,reminds one of how you spend time with the people you love and care about the most,....We are a long time DEAD....
Having said this ,and I said how lucky I am with my wife ,she has always maintained that to keep any relationship alive ,separate interests are good for the soul and marriage.......
years ago i had a carp themed road show come to my area ,sponsored by ,at the time some well known anglers and the associated companies,apart from my uncle everyone of them was divorced through carp angling....
There are lots of things outside of angling that we have planned together....However I wasn`t always like this,i`m embarrassed to show how many lakes ive fished and caught from,all time I could have spent with my lovely lady,i WAS selfish....and she never ever complained,not once..!!!
Lasy year I lost a good friend,my prot aged 43,last week his step father passed ,both good angling friends of mine ,same village ,dog walking route etc ,ie,close....it makes you think,reminds one of how you spend time with the people you love and care about the most,....We are a long time DEAD....
Having said this ,and I said how lucky I am with my wife ,she has always maintained that to keep any relationship alive ,separate interests are good for the soul and marriage.......
years ago i had a carp themed road show come to my area ,sponsored by ,at the time some well known anglers and the associated companies,apart from my uncle everyone of them was divorced through carp angling....
I was quite late to carp fishing, I didn't start until two years ago (35 at the time) . I spent every spare minute I could on the bank. My wife eventually said I was spending too much time doing it, especially since i was spending a great deal of time with work in the US, and I pulled it right back as she is by far and away the most important person in my life. It also wasn't fair I would be coming home from 2 weeks away and go fishing. At that point I reduced it to one weekend (as in Sat-Sun) per month. Happily I have since changed jobs which leaves me able to get away early on a Thurs and not have to work until midday on a Friday, perfect overnighter that doesn't infringe on 'us time' on a weekend.
Interestingly it has also given me more options on syndicates as weekday tickets are easier to get.
Interestingly it has also given me more options on syndicates as weekday tickets are easier to get.
In reply to Post #14
I only fish day sessions, purely because i don't like night fishing, i have crippling insomnia at the best of times and night fishing just left me feeling terrible in the morning.
Early morning starts and off for mid morning unless they appear on the surface then i might have a go for them off the top.
I don't have a wife and kids myself, but my dad soon stopped taking me fishing as much as a child because my mother used to whinge at being left at home for the weekend lol.
I only fish day sessions, purely because i don't like night fishing, i have crippling insomnia at the best of times and night fishing just left me feeling terrible in the morning.
Early morning starts and off for mid morning unless they appear on the surface then i might have a go for them off the top.
I don't have a wife and kids myself, but my dad soon stopped taking me fishing as much as a child because my mother used to whinge at being left at home for the weekend lol.
I got divorced, was deffo the right thing at the time for me, no interest whatsoever, got pestered into getting married and it didn't work out well, surprise, fishing was an influence but I did not give a **** at the time, thankfully I did not have kids to her
Carpfishing is a very selfish pastime and is not proactive to a long lasting relationship for me. You either need to plan your fishing around family life if serious or your mrs is very ugly if your going regular
Nothing and nobody gets more respect from me than a working man doing the family things and in pursuit of carp, it's tricky, time consuming and a frustrating game but passion keeps you going. Real life, not fantasy
Carpfishing is a very selfish pastime and is not proactive to a long lasting relationship for me. You either need to plan your fishing around family life if serious or your mrs is very ugly if your going regular
Nothing and nobody gets more respect from me than a working man doing the family things and in pursuit of carp, it's tricky, time consuming and a frustrating game but passion keeps you going. Real life, not fantasy
The wife is only all to happy kick me out in which I'm only all to happy oblige.
Mind you though she is a fcuking munter.
Mind you though she is a fcuking munter.
In reply to Post #27
Told yer, what time are you going out ?
Told yer, what time are you going out ?
In reply to Post #1
I have been going through s bit of a rough period with the mrs questioning whether it's right and were happy etc. I would imagine as I can relate, that the more the marriage isn't right the more your mate will use fishing as an escape and become more obsessed, but I imagine there are other underlying reasons behind the marriage breakdown and fishing is kinda the symptom not necessarily the cause, I may be wrong but I'm just thinking from my experience.
I have been going through s bit of a rough period with the mrs questioning whether it's right and were happy etc. I would imagine as I can relate, that the more the marriage isn't right the more your mate will use fishing as an escape and become more obsessed, but I imagine there are other underlying reasons behind the marriage breakdown and fishing is kinda the symptom not necessarily the cause, I may be wrong but I'm just thinking from my experience.
In reply to Post #29
Also to add, I was fishing every weekend when we met each other 13 years ago, we have 2 kids, aged 9 and 3 and I now fish 1-2 nights every 3-4 weeks to allow family time. She works nights I work days so only see each other really at the weekends.. its big a rough ride as our kids our extremely demanding!
Also to add, I was fishing every weekend when we met each other 13 years ago, we have 2 kids, aged 9 and 3 and I now fish 1-2 nights every 3-4 weeks to allow family time. She works nights I work days so only see each other really at the weekends.. its big a rough ride as our kids our extremely demanding!