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Divorce (72 posts / 10,681 views)
tazi tazi
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Post #46 29 Aug 2019 21:40
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clicky clicky
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Post #47 29 Aug 2019 22:28
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could write a book about my past xs..would be a few thousand pages though..now with someone who has her own hobbys, thats my past mistakes, met someone who did fck all day apart from sit on there arse..
devon157
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Post #48 30 Aug 2019 22:14
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Singlebleep Singlebleep
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Site deviant... Post #49 31 Aug 2019 23:35
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Been married for 37 years.

I manage to get quite a bit of time on the bank still, plus a France trip every year. I think the world of her.

The secret...I showed her this and asked if it was OK to post it
RobbyMalfliet RobbyMalfliet
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Post #50 1 Sep 2019 00:08
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Married with my 1st wife for 2 years.
We were together for 6 years and i have a son with her and he loves fishing.
Then i got to know my current missus.
She and her 3 lovely daughters love fishing as well wich is a great bonus!
We're married for 3 years now and all goes nicely.
We own and run a pub in Belgium and go out fishing on a weekly basis.
Mr-Magoo Mr-Magoo
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Post #51 1 Sep 2019 03:18
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**** me owns a pub and goes fishing, ain't got any sisters has she ?
Mitts Mitts
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Post #52 1 Sep 2019 03:27
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Mitts Mitts
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Post #53 1 Sep 2019 03:28
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I go every week knowing that one day she will just say sod it me and the kids are off
scozza
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Post #54 1 Sep 2019 11:24
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The secret...I showed her this and asked if it was OK to post it



digger360
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Post #55 4 Sep 2019 10:47
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Been with my wife 37yrs and i have been the luckiest bloke ever
my wife had a good job in banking and i was a self employed 360 excavator operator so could pick and choose my work
we had a deal whereby i had to earn x number of pounds a year and then could do what i liked
so in theory i could work 100hr weeks in the winter and take the summer off
we had a deal that if she was working away from home i could fish 5 nights a week and if working from home i would fish 1 night a week so i just crammed the hrs in when she was working from home
in the early 2000's i would work 5 weeks straight and then a week on the ebro then back to work and repeat i loved it but it was tiring after 2 years as i ended guiding for mates and it became a chore so gave up fishing their full time as it were and cut down to a couple of weeks their with the Mrs
and started putting silly hrs into my river fishing
now im living in Spain and after 3yrs off fishing i have got my mojo back and started fishing again and yes the wife is coming with me on the bank ....

maplecream
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Post #56 4 Sep 2019 14:56
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Been there, wasted a good few years with one of them, couldnt even enjoy my fishing in the end, as i knew deep down she was a ditch Pig, and would be sneaking around while i wasnt there.
Shes long gone, and alls good, 4 years with my lady, and no issues at all involving fishing, work, friends, grandchildren...shes always busy.
lurchy lurchy
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Post #57 4 Sep 2019 19:27
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been there and have that tee shirt...... being honest with myself , every Friday after work for 24 hrs was enough for the cow to drop her pants elsewhere,,,,, just keep eye on how much you put into your hobby , some will be very lucky people , some won't be so lucky........ 5 years on and current mrs doesn't seem to mind but I won't push it
dickweed dickweed
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Post #58 5 Sep 2019 12:32
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My mrs of 23 years never had a problem with me going. Never wanted to do longer than 12 hours at a time. 2 kids, one with special needs. Overnights or short days when they are at school. Always encouraged her to go out and do her activities, especially during the bait making years.
sgartkabel
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Post #59 5 Sep 2019 12:48
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I have 2 kids of 3 years and 5 months and since the first kid pretty much all my fishing is overnighters. Once a week if it's possible. During vacation time possibly more. Some times I take my oldest with me partly to aid my girlfriend but also since he really loves it.

Losing the family because of too much absence is not an option for me.

However I also think that if you can't solve problems you have it's not better for the kids to live in a toxic home environment anyway and then a split is a better solution.

I must say though, I work in the angling business and meet a lot of people that fish and I have heard so many times, people actually advising others to split in order to have the kids only half the time hence gaining more fishing time.

That crap pisses me off so bad. With kids comes responsibility. Make sure to take it.
NickGordon NickGordon
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Post #60 5 Sep 2019 13:05
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I'm separated from two long term partners, never married, although despite my fishing obsession, it wasn't exactly down to fishing being the cause.

My first ex suffered severe post natal depression, so I quit work to look after her and my daughter. At weekends I needed time to me, so I would fish Friday until Sunday morning as she would go to her mothers for the weekend. Sunday I would get home and take her and my daughter out.
Unfortunately my ex's depression and coping by drinking turned into becoming an alcoholic. I tried to help her beat both problems, but got to the stage she moved back to her parents where she was drinking every night.

For a few years I looked after my daughter myself around my work and fishing, Shauna would come with me on school holidays, and I would only fish overnight when she was off school.

I met my second Mrs when I was a mature student at college, where I had saved up to fund myself through an HND while working most nights.
When I left college I got into managing bars, restaurants and hotels as well as keeping up some of my doorwork and self-employed bits, but working away for 3/4 days to earn better money than locally put a strain on her and our two children.
In the end my Ex said it was work locally or split up, but even working locally didn't keep her happy, so we did break up, and that was a train wreck with two children involved.

Now I'm happy being single as unless you are in the hospitality industry you don't understand the shifts
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